“Seek and you shall find…”

When love and/or approval has been withheld, is it any wonder we question our worth? When we are not accepted, it is inevitable that we will seek it out.

But love and/or approval that is not freely given is always conditional. And anything conditional will only perpetuate this negative state of affairs.

When we have been conditioned to expect nothing, we will look to the wrong people to satisfy our need. But they are simply not capable of it.

The people who make us feel unworthy are typically unsatisfied in their own lives. And they will project that feeling outward to any unsuspecting victim.

Unfortunately, some of us are more susceptible to this than others. We will, in fact, be drawn to exactly this kind of misbehavior.

Wanting acceptance is not the problem – everyone wants to feel seen and heard. Knowing you matter, that you have a right to exist, is primal.

The key is to understand that without a need for external input. When we look for it from outside sources, it’s because it’s missing from within.

Hard as it is, it’s imperative to find a way to really be ok with who we are. Technically, there is never a need for someone else’s approval.

Figuring out how we want to be and what we want to be doing – that is, living life on our terms is fundamental. Only then can we relax and enjoy it.

And that’s all that really matters.