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I have been carrying a heavy load for a while now. Perhaps, indeed, my whole life. Weighed down by a feeling of unease, which I now recognize as a question of psychological safety. Certain people, or situations, make me feel this way. And in those moments I am looking for someone to make me feel…

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Holding onto a situation or someone is less about the inability to let go and more about the inability to move on. It is about the comfort of what is known versus the discomfort of the unknown. Safety versus fear, in other words. When all you’ve known is chaos, safety – even the false promise…

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I realize that by placing responsibility for my life in others’ hands, I am totally relinquishing my power. Which is not a good thing. I need to take that back, and the sooner the better. When we are young, we have no power. We are the unwitting accomplices in whatever game is at play in…

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I have had back pain for close to thirty years. It culminated in emergency surgery for a herniated disc just over a decade ago. Surgery, once again, is looming. I do not relish the prospect, given it is more complicated this time. It is, in my spine surgeon’s words, for a constellation of symptoms. Come…

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